My Husband Blames Me For Everything - What Should I Do? Does My Husband Still Love Me?

It is easy to feel that your husband doesn't love you anymore when you have that "my husband blames me for everything" feeling. And in some cases, you might be true - if your husband started using everything as an excuse to start a fight, it might be that he is trying to find an easy way out of the marriage without looking guilty himself. What to do when this happens is a very delicate subject, and you must act rationally if you want to repair and save your marriage.

Why Does My Husband Blame Me For Everything?

If your husband is doing those because he wants to divorce you; the number one thing he is expecting when he is criticizing you for everything is that you "shoot back" and escalate the fight. If you do, it will also give him a chance to escalate, and with each turn the fight would become worse and more damaging for your marriage - a few very heated fights and he can no longer be blamed for talking about divorce.

It appears, then, shooting back is not an appropriate answer for the question "What should I do when my husband blames me for everything?". The immediate answer is to stay calm and play it cool, and not give him the chance he seeks. But one thing you have to keep in mind - if your husband wants a divorce, denying him those chances actually means nothing in the long run - you have to make your husband love you again so he won't want to divorce you.

So the longer term answer to the above question (what to do when my husband blames me for everything) is to focus on yourself and make the necessary changes to make your husband love you again. Right now this might look impossible to you - but it's very far from that! Your husband married you for a reason and it's not impossible to recreate those conditions again, and he'll fall for you a second time.

How to Make Your Husband Love You Again

This question usually has its answers in becoming an independent, free woman again. As women, when we get married and become wives, we might focus too much on the family and forget our primary roles (that made the marriage happen in the first place) as romantic partners for our husbands. If you focus too much on children and housework, this might kill the romantic love your husband feels for you and make him feel like you're like a roommate to him rather than a soul mate. You have to become the independent, lively woman your husband first married.